Before
embarking on a long-term relationship/commitment with someone, remember that
romance (passionate love) is always short term. It could last for just a few
months, a year sometimes, and two at most. For a relationship to survive in the
long run, you will need more than just romantic love feelings. Your partner and
you will need to have common goals and plans, common values, be able to
understand each other, and have a similar outlook on life. If romance is all
you're counting on, you'll get disappointed every year or two and be on the
chase for a new relationship.
So
this is the easiest way to determine if you can be with your partner for say 5,
10 years or more. If you just got into a new relationship, subtract the passion
you feel now, do you still see any reasons to be with them? If your answer is
no, you know that relationship will probably only be short-term. That's because
the compassionate love on which long-term relationships survive requires a deep
appreciation for your partner and real compatibility. Don't feel frustrated if
you're constantly in short relationships. However, if you're looking for a
partner to possibly spend the rest of your life with, considerations beyond
romantic love are necessary.
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